“No one is you and that is your superpower.” We have all read and been temporarily inspired by the meme, but how many of us really believe that what we have to offer is special? Author, blogger, and Power Day speaker Ty Alexander’s story of success, loss, and continuous healing is truly exceptional. By penning her book “Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died” and being transparent with her blog Gorgeous in Grey she has managed to share her story with others that need the encouragement and support of knowing they are not alone. Unsure about why the world needs you to step and share? She’s got great three reasons for you. Check them out below!
1. It’s Therapeutic
I never realized how insanely therapeutic talking through my story could be. Each time I tell it I become more aware of how far I’ve come. When I start with “I slept on couches when I first came to NY” or when I realize I’m saying “I did my first commercial” I’m wowed at my journey all over again.
2. It’s helping others
When I shared that a part of my journey included losing my mother, women who had been through the same experience began to reach out. I realized that it only takes one conversation with one woman to make them change their ideas on death and grief. Sharing my story gave them permission to live independently from that grief. Sharing our stories reminds us that it’s ok to live beyond that story and that story isn’t our only existence in the world.
3. It’s proves we are not alone.
Not only did I realize I was giving women permission to live independently but I was a constantly reminder that they weren’t alone in this. When we are going through the fire it’s hard to see others on the sidelines cheering for us. It’s hard to see that we aren’t the only ones in this race.
Want more tips on how to help others and yourself by sharing your unique story in 2017? Join us on January 7th for the 2nd annual BrownGirlsLove Power Day!
BrownGirlsLove Power Day is about empowering you with resources and encouragement so that you can kick off your 2017 with power! One of your biggest resources is your influence! We tapped Power Day speaker, model, blogger, and beauty entrepreneur Africa Miranda to share three tips on how she converted her significant social influence into a complete lifestyle brand. Africa just recently launched a beauty elixir and she has more on the way. Here’s what she had to say about building a lifestyle brand:
We are only one week away from our 2nd annual Power Day! We’ve asked some of our amazing speakers to provide you guys with a few tips to kick off 2017 with POWER! First up is Tonya Rapley of My Fab Finance with 3 Tips for Fab Finances in 2017! Check them out below:
1. Take Regular Financial Assessments
Start with your first assessment during the first week of the year. That’s a given! But then regularly check on your expenses, and your progress. It’s better to realize that you’re behind on your goals in June, than to let the entire year pass you by leading to disappointment in December. Things you should assess include: your credit score, your purchase categories, your savings, and retirement savings progress.
2. Question Your Spending
All too often we buy out of habit and not out of understanding. I’m not saying don’t buy things. But you should ask yourself questions before you buy. Questions you should ask: “Do I really need this?”, “What purpose will it serve?”, and “Am I buying this to appeal to others or is it a legitimate investment in my goals?”. These questions are helpful in combating unnecessary purchases.
3. Join a Community
Accountability is powerful. It binds you to the relentless pursuit of your goals. When you align yourself with others who are committed to achieving the same goals, a healthy competition and camaraderie evolves that can super-charge your focus. In my Triumph Club, members celebrate each others’ financial successes and learn from one another. While your immediate circle might not be on the same financial page as you, it’s helpful to a be a part of a community that understands your journey.
Want more awesome tips like these? Join us for the “Girls Just Wanna Have Funds” Panel on this Saturday, January 7th at Power Day 2017 in NYC! Click below to purchase tickets:
Many stories have been shared of the psychological effects of facing one’s mortality. A woman is diagnosed with lupus and reevaluates her commitment to work-life balance. A man survives prostate cancer and is inspired to become a better father. Less is told of those left behind – the children, cousins, siblings, and friends who are left face to face with their greatest fears and inadequacies when someone they loves is diagnosed with a terminal illness. Gorgeous in Grey’s Ty Alexander recounts her experiences worrying about, caring for, and ultimately mourning her late mother with beautiful honesty in “Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mother Died”. Part memoir, part self-help book, this first effort from Alexander is the perfect gift for yourself or a loved one dealing with grief this holiday season.
Racism does not merely present itself in cases of blatant hatred. It is the airline employee who assumes you’re not in first class, the coworker who’s compelled to tell you how “well you speak”, and the fashion designer who refuses to acknowledge your culture within his vision.
Recently Marc Jacobs sent models down the runway sporting faux-locks in shades of pastel. Models included the “it-girl” models of the moment but very few women of color. When asked by New York Magazine’s “The Cut” how he was inspired by the Rastafarian culture from which locks originate, he replied that he was not. Some media outlets cited his inspiration as a return to “raver culture”. Where did these ravers get their initial inspiration from? They neglected to say.
Read more about the reception to Jacob’s spring presentation below:
This season Harlem’s Fashion Row once again celebrated designers, innovators, and stars of color at their Runway show and awards ceremony. Throngs of fashion industry spiders flocked to Chelsea Piers to attend the celebration which was supported by Motions, Latina Magazine, Ebony Magazine and more. As Harlem’s Fashion Row founder Brandice Daniels reminded attendees designers of color make up less than 1% of the brands found in major department stores making institutions committed to highlighting these unsung talents crucial.
Legendary record producer, philanthropist, and designer Swizz Beatz was presented with this year’s icon 360 award. His speech was straightforward and compelling. He confessed that when he was told about the award he instructed his assistant to clear everything on his busy New York Fashion Week schedule so that he could attend the ceremony. “Sometimes when people call we say I’m busy but when Tom Ford calls I’m not busy. So I had to make sure that I answered your call the same way that I answer Tom Ford’s call”.
During his speech he also highlighted acclaimed stylists like Ty Hunter and Wouri Vice who were also in attendance thanking them for their contributions to the fashion community.
Read more about this wonderful event below.
There are several things I just didn’t expect to see in my lifetime that have now taken place- a black president, Beyonce’ with a pixie cut, and now average sized models at a “traditional” womenswear show. While the presence of normal women on the runway of a show intended to promote and selling clothing to normal women shouldn’t have been shocking for me it was. I couldn’t hold my applause as Sabina Karlsson, Precious Lee, and Marquita Pring each emerged gracefully from backstage this season at Christian Siriano and the rest of the crowd seemed to feel the same way.
Read more about the designer’s daring show below.
This weekend brown girls from the the city that never sleeps braved the heat to join Christina in celebrating the end of the BrownGirlsLove Brunch tour at the Lower East Side’s Stanton Social. Attended by spokemodel and actress Africa Miranda, makerting expert Ylorie Anderson, lifestyle blogger and podcast host Simone Gittens and other likeminded powerful young women of purpose this final installment of summer 16’s brunch series was filled with love, laughter, and inspiration.
Find out more about this uplifting day below.
This year has been awesome as Christina has gotten a chance to connect with and hear the amazing stories of beautiful brown girls all over the country. But while she’s had a blast in places like Atlanta, Los Angeles, and Chicago we all know there’s no place like home. This weekend Christina and the BrownGirlsLove family will be hosting the final installment of the 2016 Brown Girls Love Brunch Tour sponsored by EDEN BodyWorks, Ouidad and Kinky Curly Yaki.
Here are three reasons you should prepare to send off summer ’16 with us at Stanton Social below.
1.Your Favorite Brown Girls
When brown girls get together there are plenty of fun, fros, and fab to go around. This brunch series is a great place to meet fellow bloggers, network with other entrepreneurs or just find new friends.
Previous guests at the BrownGirlsLove brunches have included Gabi Fresh of GabiFresh.com, and Jasmine Lawrence of Eden Body Works. Come sip mimosas while expanding your circle!
2. Instagram Heaven
The Lower East Side provides the perfect backdrop for your new profile picture because the streets are lined with social media friendly murals including the wall of hearts located on Freeman Alley seen below.
Come and check out all of the vibrant art and killer views that instant Instagram likes are made of and check out how Christina struck a pose in front of a rainbow hued wall here.
3. Location. Location. Location.
The Stanton Social is a super sexy spot with a wickedly talented chef. Featured in the New York Times, New York Magazine, Uptown Magazine and more this restaurant is a favorite of celebrities like Jessica Alba and has been a beacon of fine dining in the neighborhood for years.
We’re so excited to end this season’s BrownGirlsLove Brunch Tour here at home in the New York City area!
Tickets are available below We hope to see you there!
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This weekend, while Christina was at the LA installment of the #BrownGirlSLoveBrunch, I had the pleasure of attending the annual celebration of confidence, style, and self acceptance that is Curl Fest. Founded by Curly Girl Collective, Curl Fest is an amazing opportunity for the women of the natural hair community to connect with brands, local businesses, and each other at an amazingly over the top picnic in Brooklyn’s Prospect Park.
Missed out? Check out the curls and street style that were on display below!