#LBSHealthyLiving: Why I’m Ditching Diets For Good


Ever since I can remember, I’ve been on the plus side of sizing whether it was in height or weight. As an elementary school kid, I started sprouting curves way before my peers. I was always the tallest girl in the class (yes I had to close the door behind the class and turn off the lights). I became comfortable with being different and larger in size from a small age, and subsequently with having more responsibility. It wasn’t until Junior High that I realized my size could actually effect everything from my love life to my shopping trips to the mall with friends.

This is my earliest memory of attempting a diet. I remember in Junior High decided to cut down on some of my fatty food and I immediately started what was back then the “newest” sensation in fitness – Tae Bo. I dropped nearly 30 pounds, fit into a size 8 and had the absolute best summer ever. Fast forward a few months and the diet was over. I was back to eating junk food after school and the Tae Bo routines had gotten old. I knew them all by heart. So my weight crept back up and my size was back in the double digits.


Anyway, I gave this story as an example of my constant battle with weight loss. A few years ago when I started LoveBrownSugar I vowed to stop focusing on trying to change myself and to truly embrace who I am – curves and all. I wrote post after post about body positivity, I confidently strutted my curves on this blog and I spoke publicly about the importance of loving yourself at any size.

Deep down though, I knew I wasn’t doing all that I could to take proper care of my body. I often felt convicted but not enough to do something long-term about it. In fact I continued to diet off and on getting temporary results and never doing anything definitive about my overall lack of emphasis on health. See, the diets were fairly easy to pull off but working out? That took time and effort and more time. Time I didn’t have. Time I considered negotiable.

Until last October. For years, my father has battled with a disease that plagues many individuals with a family history and a tendency towards obesity.

My father has diabetes.

Last October, his high blood pressure and diabetes elevated his health condition to Kidney disease. He was rushed to the hospital for an emergency procedure and told he would have to start dialysis and continue on it until he could be considered for potential kidney donation.


(Above: My Dad & his princess Cadence aka #babybrownsugar)

At the beginning of this year I did my due diligence and met with his nurses to determine my eligibility for kidney donation. Upon my exam results, I was informed that I could not proceed with being eligible until I lost 30 pounds. Pay attention to the dates now – that was January of this year. I even wrote a post about it here. It’s now July and I sadly haven’t lost a pound. Why? Because I haven’t made it a priority.

I got a huge wake up call after my dad’s nurse gave me a call last month to check on my weight loss status. Not only had I not lost a pound but I had been watching my Father go back and forth to dialysis literally every other morning at the crack of dawn and hadn’t even attempted to get my health in order not just for him but for myself. Obviously if it runs in my family I have a chance at ending up the exact same way if I’m not careful.

After chatting with some of my good friends about it (people who are not only good friends but have had amazing and transformative weight loss journeys of 30 pounds+) I decided that I would throw my crash diets and defeatist attitudes out the window along with my Oreos and my Chips Ahoy. Life always comes down to choices and by choosing to avoid a healthy weight loss journey I was also choosing to not give my father the chance of having a viable organ. Though a 30 pound weight loss won’t guarantee that he’ll have a new kidney from me, it will at least give me the peace of mind in knowing that I tried and will set my entire family up for transformative health success so we can stop the disease and the habits that lead to risk factors for it.


Anyway, I’ll be starting anew this week ditching diets and focusing on overall healthy living for the second half of 2015 as my opportunity to do something meaningful. And I will never ever “diet” again. This is a lifestyle change for me that will require a lot of hard work, discipline, determination and help! I’ve had to request that my family doesn’t leave unhealthy snacks in the common areas. I’ve started a group chat with some of my friends who want to live healthier as well. And I’ve enacted a set of dependable accountability partners who will help steer me in the right direction, give me unfiltered and honest advice and can truly hold me accountable to do what I said I would do. I’m going to be participating in “Fitness Friday” updates – coined by my girl Lexi – and will be updating you guys weekly on my progress.

So here’s where YOU come in. I’ve never done this before but I’d like for you all to be my virtual accountability partners as well. If you see me on the ‘gram, hit me and ask what I’ve eaten that day. Tell me to abort mission of you see me gramming #foodie pics of stuff you know good and well I shouldn’t have. And most of all – please feel free to join me! Health is so important to so many aspects of your life. Though I hate trekking to the gym, I love the high I get when a workout is complete. Though I, too, feel like salad is comparable to eating grass I know that it’s more about what’s good for my heart than my tastebuds.

So what about you? What are your experiences with diets? Any tips for a newcomer to the lifestyle change? Hit me in the comments below!

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  • I’m with you! Before I got super busy mid-June, I had *finally* gotten back into a routine of going to the gym and I even added Zumba to the list. But that period of 10 days turned me upside down and I hadn’t been in weeks – until today! I’ve been going to Zumba, but that will be ending soon, so I made a conscious decision to get back into my gym routine and I’ll be assessing my eating habits as well. Gotta stop buying the junk and keep healthy snacks around. And #mealprep. Because when I don’t, I fail.
    I totally understand where you’re coming from, in terms of having a plan and not sticking to it. I’m supposed to be at least 15 lbs lighter and on my way to super sexy for these weddings I’m going to in Sept and Oct lolol. Better late than never 😉

    • YES! Better late than never is right. What I’m learning is that just because you fall short or fail temporarily doesn’t mean all is lost forever. Just finish the brownie and don’t eat another one until next week lol. Everything in moderation.

  • Baby Shopaholic

    That’s awesome that you are not just doing this for yourself but for your dad. It’s important that we take care of ourselves. Finding a physical activity that you enjoy is key to working out. I got addicted to Zumba after I had Peyton, so I did what ever I had to do to make it to class.

    • I LOVE Zumba. It feels like fun and not exercise. I’m definitely looking for more ways to do that. I just signed up for a Beyonce dance class and I am SO hype for it!

  • MommieKnowsfresh

    This post is so beautiful! I just had this conversation with myself! I want to set the best possible example for Mickey and that includes being as healthy as possible.

    • Ugh you’re going to make me cry Caprece. I didn’t even go into detail how important it is for me to set an example for Cadence because that just makes me so emotional but it’s true. Our daughters need happy AND healthy examples to look up to. I can’t treat her hair well and not her body. Thanks for the encouragement!

  • Christina, you are going to do awesome! It actually helped me on my journey when I shared with my readers. I’m sure this will help with you as well. People will be rooting for you. Like you mentioned, it is definitely a lifestyle change. Its all about finding what works for you since everyone does something different. I will be cheering you on and let me know if you ever need anything!

    • Thank you Lexi! Truth be told, your journey really helped solidify for me that I can do this. So thank YOU for being so transparent and inspiring others like myself!

  • I love this post! Dieting AND changing a lifestyle are extremely hard – for me, it’s all about learning to make foods that you love that still taste good. I’m a huge fan of FlavorGod Seasonings and OMGhee – I talk about them a lot on IG (@manifesturself) – I highly recommend them if you are into cooking at home. They work on everything – I even sprinke the Honey BBQ FlavorGod on popcorn. 🙂 I’m based in NYC – so if you ever want to chat and swap recipes – hit me up! xo

  • Shaniqua Garvin

    I am sitting here crying and I can certainly relate. I lost my husband in January (http://www.brownmediamama.com/becoming-a-widow/) being the surviving parent to my son I made a vow to do better. Initially I lost at least 10lbs from grief but I go back to my ways too frequently. Just this week I was surely at the McDonalds blogger party knocking those cheeseburgers and beers back. I paid for it the next day too. It seems so difficult to stay on this journey but I hope we can support one another. Before reading this I was actually going to invite you to my job, can you believe I work for Equinox. I am the children’s party coordinator. I can give you more details maybe we can be workout buddies if you come. In any case I would love to help support you and extend any opportunities I could to do so. If you have any fitness related groups I can join as well please let me know. Best of luck.

    • Hi Shaniqua! It was so great meeting and connecting with you at BlogHer this weekend. My condolences on the loss of your husband. The beautiful thing is that you can change the course of this situation at any time. It’s not easy but it’s doable. I’m always here to support and I would love to join you at Equinox some time. Email me so we can set something up.Thank you for reading and supporting me, it means the world. We can do this together!

      • Shaniqua Garvin

        yay, looking forward to that.

  • katrina hilliard

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. Sounds just like me. I too dieted and got down to a size 8 from a size 16. You couldnt tell me nothing! I thought I had made it and I stopped doing the things that got me there. Next thing you know, I cant wear any of my new skinny clothes and Im back in the double digits. So upset with myself and the fact that I have to start over. I have to look at it as a life style and not a quick fix. It’s about being healthy so that you can be with family/friends and watch your children grow up. I look forward to following your journey and getting myself together as well. #teamfitandfine

    • Katrina I love that hashtag! Lol it’s so perfect. And YES it’s about way more than just looking good temporarily. So many people are depending on us. We owe it to them and to ourselves to be healthy.

  • I really enjoyed this post. I follow you on Instagram and I love your pics but this is my first time reading your blog and I’m glad I stopped by! It definitely helps when we throw out the word “diet” and just simply make healthy living an everyday part of our lives. I started walking 30 mins a day a few weeks ago, just to be active, and I’m surprised at the few pounds I’ve lost by just WALKING. I got a fitbit and now I’m addicted to seeing how many steps I can get in one day. I’ve also increased by protein intake dramatically so I’m not starving by the end of my work day and I get at least one good workout once a week. Good luck and I can’t wait to follow you during your progress!

    • Thank you so much for sharing your personal journey! I’ve heard so much about FitBit, I need to get one for myself. Congrats on making the decision to be more active. We can do this!